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Time to Have an Important Talk with Elderly ParentsHoliday togetherness offers a chance to catch up on vital matters |
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By Jim Miller December 17, 2007
Discussing financial, legal and long-term care decisions with older parents can be difficult and awkward, especially if you’ve never done it before. Many seniors consider financial matters to be private, and have no interest in discussing them, even with their kids. To help with this the MetLife Mature Market Institute offers 10 tips for making money talks with parents a little easier, starting with: 1. Don’t put it off: It’s best to initiate the conversation while your parents are still in good health. If you’re uncomfortable starting up the conversation use this article as a prompter. 2. Team up: Involve your siblings and other family members in the discussion with your parents. This can help you head off possible hard feelings. Plus, with family members involved, your folks will know everyone is concerned, not just you. 3. Explain your intentions: Let your parents know that you are starting this discussion because you’re concerned and you want to make sure you do the right things as they age. 4. Don’t take over: Your parents still have the need and right to make their own decisions. Try not to take that sense of control away from them. 5. Agree to disagree: You and your parents may disagree with each other on what they may need, but don’t force your opinion on them. Unless their health or safety is on the line, respect their decisions. 6. Communicate clearly: Try to avoid offering advice. Instead, focus on presenting them with options. Include them in the discussion by asking for their ideas. Instead of telling them what to do, try to express your concerns. 7. Ask about important documents: Know where your parents’ insurance policies, wills, health care proxies, living wills, trust documents, tax returns, and investment and banking records are located. You can start by asking them where they keep their papers, and whom you should contact in case they’re in an accident, or are incapacitated. This approach can also provide you with an opening to discuss what provisions they’ve made, and what still needs to be done. 8. Provide them with information: Act as a search engine for your parents by giving them materials to read and helping them find important resources to assist them such as:
9. Step back and evaluate: If you find that the conversations aren’t going well, examine your own approach to see what might be the problem. You might suggest that your parents talk with a third party – an estate planner (see www.aaepa.com), a financial adviser (www.cfp.net) or a lawyer (www.naela.com) – if you think that they could use some expert assistance. 10. Treat them with respect: Appreciate and respect their wisdom and experiences, and let them know you are there to support them. ---Jim Miller is a contributor to the NBC Today show and author of “The Savvy Senior” books. Report Your Experience
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